Alignment Is The Key To Getting What You Want

Alignment is the key to getting what you want in life. When you take the time to align your internal and external energies, everything else falls into place. By implementing these 10 tips, you’ll start noticing shifts in how you feel and how your life responds to you. Whether it’s setting boundaries, caring for your body, or clearing out emotional baggage, each step you take toward alignment brings you closer to manifesting the life of your dreams.

Start aligning your energy today—and watch the magic unfold!

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Hey, guys. Welcome to episode 2 of the Aligned Energetics podcast. Today, we're going to talk about alignment and how it is the key to getting what you want in life. So I thought I would start today's episode with a definition of what alignment is. There's actually 2 different aspects of alignment.

There's internal and external alignment. So let's talk about internal first. Internal alignment is the most important and it's the first thing to focus on whenever you want to shift anything, or change anything in your life. So internal alignment is when our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual parts of ourselves are all harmoniously balanced, meaning that there is flow, there is a sense of contentment, and inner peace, and groundedness, and just feeling really aligned, like, to who you are, and how you're feeling in this present moment. So that is the number one thing to focus on whenever you want to get something out of life or create new beginnings in your life.

The second part is the external alignment, which is when our thoughts and our attitudes and our actions are all aligned to the vision we have for ourselves or our life, and that is deeply connected to your values, and the values are the key to your life. Your values are the essence of who you are and what makes you unique. Our values are our why in life. They are the drivers that set us on a unique path of purpose and fulfillment and contentment, and all those amazing things that we would love to experience and feel in our lives. So when we are aligned with our values everything will fall into place, especially when we have that alignment and that action behind it.

So in essence, that is the secret to alignment, is having those things in place, and that's why my motto for Aligned Energetics is Align, Do, Become. You do the internal alignment, the external alignment, you do the inspired action steps, because without action it's just like a dream, it's a dream like state, it's not actually happening, you need to shift energy in order to change it, and then you become, you actualize your vision, your dream for yourself and your life, and that's when you become the happiest, most magnetizing, and powerful version of yourself. You become the person you always dreamt you could be deep down, and deep down you knew that you could be that person, but there's something that's just not clicking, and I can tell you right now it's because there's one of these elements that aren't in alignment right now for you. Ultimately, the end goal is to get to the point where you can't wait to get out of bed in the morning. You wake up feeling so excited and overwhelmed with gratitude for your life and all the blessings that are in it.

This is the end goal. This is what we want, and this is what I want for you, and why I've created this whole business is to help you to get to that point where you're jumping out of bed in the morning and loving your existence. And it may sound really self centered and maybe even a little egotistical to think about life in this way and and getting what we want out of life, but when we feel in alignment with our values and we're working towards that, We light up inside, we become alive, and we need more people like that in this world. We need to have that deeper connection to who we truly are and what really matters to us and live out our day to day lives in alignment with that, because the more people that become alive, the more people that are really getting out there and creating incredible lives for themselves has an amazing, flow on effect to everyone in their life. It lifts everyone else up while you're lifting yourself up, and it gives other people permission to go and chase their own dreams, And so as you set yourself free, you're setting everyone else around you free as well, and this is really in alignment with my values around freedom and around seeing a community that's thriving, whether that's like a local town or city or the country or the world at large, this is really important that we start to take care of ourselves in a way where we are aligning ourselves to our values, we're aligning ourselves to what we genuinely want. Because at the moment we are sold this idea that we want, you know, the house and the car and the kids and the marriage and we go out and get all those things, or maybe it's a university degree as well, like an incredible career, but if we're kind of sold to as to what that looks like and the parameters of which that needs to sit within, we are living a life that is a version of society's idea of what makes us happy, and I really do feel this is a major reason why so many people are anxious and depressed in life now, feeling so lost and just so deeply unhappy and it's because we have lost our sense of connection to ourselves and our soul, to our spiritual selves even, to our bodies.

A lot of us are walking around right now all up in our heads and it's just not working and that's why this podcast exists. Anyway, I've gone off on a bit of a tangent there. So I thought I would give you 10 tips today on how you can start aligning your energy. If this has piqued your interest and if it's feeling like something is, this is, you know, what you wanna implement into your life and find and discover more of, then these are some great first steps in order to get to that point. So:

1. Set stronger boundaries.
Say no unless it's a hell yes. Our energy and time is so precious and we can't show up as our best selves if we spread ourselves too thin. This is about taking full responsibility for our life and taking ownership over what you say yes to. Let everything else go. If it's not a hell yes, it's not meant for you, and everyone will be happier around you when you say yes to things you actually want to say yes to and no to things that aren't feeling in alignment for you.

Because otherwise, we are saying yes to things that aren't feeling in alignment with ourselves and therefore the energy gets all fucked up, to be honest, and it has a really negative flow on effect to everyone in that circumstance and it has a huge flow on effect with other things like guilt or, resentment and gets really murky and, you know, then you don't show up fully, so then tasks aren't getting done properly or you're, you know, not taking full ownership so then other people have to step up and fill that role for you and it just becomes a whole thing. So the number 1, if there's anything to do right now that would get you into greater alignment with yourself and your life would be to set stronger boundaries.

2. Let go of guilt, shame, and regret.
These kind of emotions can hold us back from truly living in the present, so owning your decisions and your mistakes is really important, recognizing that you are a human, you're going to stuff up every now and again and that's okay, so the key is to take ownership over them though, it's not about pretending that you didn't make a mistake, it's about taking ownership over it.

Do what you can to make the amends, to make amends with people, that were involved and then move forward and start fresh taking that lesson with you. The lesson part is really important because if you don't take on the lesson and learn from it, it's gonna happen again, okay, so take the lesson and move forward and don't look back. Choosing the best version of yourself every day and making decisions that align with that, because really the present moment is the only thing that exists and that is real, it's right now, right now you can make the choice to let go of the past and move forward, make better decisions right now. Your best version of yourself, if you connect to that right now, what would she do? Or, you know, if you're a guy what would he do?

Right, what is the next best step? And it can be as simple as I would drink more water, I would stop and take 5 minutes to calm down, I would shift my focus today, I would be more present with the people around me, know, so everyone's circumstances are different, but the idea is to choose the present moment right now and let go of what's happened in the past that might be pulling you back and holding you back from being able to step forward into your life right now.

3. Reconnect with your body
Like I said before, a lot of us we are stuck up in our heads, we forget that we have a body, we literally disassociate with it, we stop realising how it's feeling in our body and then all of a sudden we reconnect to it and there's pain and discomfort, there's uncomfortable feelings that might be sitting in there, there's tension, but we've got to work with that. We gotta love it and accept it and work through it rather than ignore it. If we ignore it, that's when it will get louder.

Your body will have to yell at you to get you to listen. So don't get to that point, Okay? What we need to do is drop down into our body and feel. Feel the emotions so they can be released from the body. Feel how you're feeling and don't attach any particular meaning to it.

The idea is that you feel it, let the energy pass so you can actually feel more present and more peaceful right now. A great way to do that is reconnecting with your 5 senses, so and have fun with it, so play with how you choose to dress for that day, what do you want to wear that feels good, what do you choose to adorn your body with, you know, what jewelry do you want to wear, how do you want to put your hair, how do you want to smell that day, is there a beautiful essential oil, or perfume, or something that makes you feel good and confident, How do you want your skin to look and feel? How do you want to carry your body? What's your posture like? How do you want to move through life? How are your movements with your arms, with your legs? Essentially it's just all about being, it's being in your feminine energy and that is really important when it comes to the gateway to pleasure, and the gateway to pleasure is the key to manifesting what you want, it starts in the body.

4. Be a better custodian of your body.
Nurture and take care of it. Now when I say this I know that there's gonna be times where you choose not to do this, Like if you have a glass of wine which we all know we probably shouldn't do, but I for one am a wine lover and so that's not something I'm willing to give up. Even though I know it's not the best for me, I just need to be really aware of the balance with that, right, so there might be something different for you with that but the idea is that every day we're working on nurturing and taking care of our body the best way we can in a way that feels good. So consciously choosing what foods you're eating, how you're moving your body, how you're taking care of it, your body is like a beloved pet. So it needs nourishment and love and attention, it's its own thing.

Your physical self, your physical body is its own thing and it needs to be taken care of by you. If something isn't feeling right, book in with a professional you need to see, book in regular appointments to keep it well, keep it moving in the best way possible, keep allowing it to experience pleasure, to look its best, to feel its best, so whether it's booking that massage, or that facial, or that dentist, or doctor appointment, or the chiro, or, you know, finally booking that pap smear, which I know a lot of women put off, booking the yoga class, booking the coaching or kinesiology session, right? Treat it like an honour to be given this vehicle to move through life with because it is and it's precious and it's the only vehicle you have for your entire life, so look after it.

5. Take better care of your external world.
What's your home looking like right now? Do you know exactly what you own and where it is? What's the state of your car like? Is there rubbish all over the floor and dust on the dashboard? What's the state of your wallet, your handbag, your phone? Are they clean? Are they tidy? What's your closet like? Dare I ask? Are there only clothes in there that you actually wear and love to wear? You might need to Marie Kondo something there. Highly recommend, by the way, if you haven't read about Marie Kondo's book The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, I think that's what it's called. Anyway, her philosophy is really great because it's all about, you know, you hold the item, connect with it, does it spark joy? If it doesn't, it needs to go. If it does, then keep it because what we want is an environment where we only are surrounded by things that we love and that gives us energy, not depletes it. And the idea is too that if you give all this stuff away you're not gonna go out and then buy all this stuff again, right, that's not the point of it. It's letting go of things that no longer bring joy and keeping and taking care of, and nurturing, and maintaining what you do have, and what brings you joy.

So we as a society are constantly being bombarded with messages to keep looking forward of what's next. Buy this, if you want to be that kind of person you need to own this, there's a newer version of that now. What are we up to? How many iPhones now? Like it's crazy.

The key to contentment is accepting and loving where you're at and what you have right now. There's no point dreaming of a beautiful Mercedes if your Ford Focus is trashed and never taken in for a service. There's no point getting yourself in deeper debt just to own that designer dress and then you can't pay rent next week. This isn't about lack and, you know, restriction and of just living within your means, boring, this instead is a practice of gratitude, it's about taking full responsibility for everything you have manifested in your life thus far. You're born with nothing, so everything around you right now you have somehow magically been able to manifest into your life. Well done. Now, the key is for all of us to start taking care of those things. Maintain them, keep them clean, tidy. If it's broken, fix it because I promise you if you take better care of what you already own, this energy will have an incredible impact on your ability to manifest your desires. Because from the energy of gratitude, you're also on the energy of magic, of magnetism.

It's sexy as hell and is such a key part in getting what you want. Quick segue here as an example. So, I have wanted for years, I have been dreaming of a home with a hedge right around it. Right? Beautiful garden to surround this country home that makes me feel at peace and this sense of wholeheartedness, wholesomeness, and I have had that on my dream, like my vision board for years. 2 years ago, by fate, magically, this place ended up being what we moved into. Right? Like, it's a long like, it's complicated story about how and my, like, personal circumstances, which maybe I'll go into at one point, but anyway, long story short, we are living in this incredible home with this garden that I have always wanted. But I had a lesson to learn... It's one thing to manifest what you desire - it's another to maintain it. So, here we are with when we moved in, I think we had a 3 year old and a 1 year old. Not even. Arthur might have been 8 or 9 months old. Anyway, moved in with these young kids and all of a sudden I had this huge garden that needed maintaining, and, of course, it didn't happen.

It wasn't actually possible at the time and so now I am needing to put in so much time and effort to redo and fix what fell to the wayside when I wasn't able to take care of it. But in that process it has brought out this side of me that brings me so much joy and I've actually fallen in love like all I want to do now is be out in my garden. And I'm not the best gardener, I am learning, I'm googling everything, I'm youtubing everything, there's still a lot of it that's not perfect, but that's not the point. The point is that we want to maintain and take care of the beauty around us, the, you know, blessings that we have been provided by God, by spirit, whatever your beliefs are around that, but it's a privilege to be given these things in our lives to take care of, so take care of it. I'll go into this in another episode because it's honestly changed my life, this garden, already, and it's making me such a better version of myself that I didn't even know existed.

But hopefully from this story it might make you think of something in your life that might need some care and attention, and it can be as simple as oiling a beautiful wooden table that you own, or know, updating the software on your computer, so you don't get viruses on it or fixing what's broken, ordering new parts for something, you know, I keep trying to, my mind keeps going to things in the garden that need maintaining, but you get what I'm saying. Right? Like, you know, if you've got a if you've got a beautiful leather couch, get leather cleaner for it, you know, put that leather conditioner on it. It's about taking care of what you own because from that energy of gratitude, you, like I said, are on that energy of magnetism and joy and the ability. It gives you the power to then manifest from that place. You gotta start with loving what you have.

6. If you haven't already, get clear on your values.
Get clear on what you actually give a shit about. A lot of us haven't stopped to actually ask ourselves what matters most to us. We're just told to live a certain way and so we try our best to maintain that lifestyle, but is it actually what you want? Is the way you're currently living and where you're putting your energy what you actually give a shit about?

If the answer is no, then it's time to reevaluate and change course, my friend. Your happiness depends on it. I've created a really quick cheat sheet for you which lists out all of the main values. So, I'll put a link in the show notes and in the, blog post about this on my website. So you can download it and it will just give you a quick summary of, okay, let's work out my values and have a look at the list and choose your top 5.

So, just as a fun example, I'll give you mine. Mine is freedom, family, fulfillment, passion, and wholesomeness. When, and of course I care about more than just that, but when I have those things running through my life, filling every aspect of my life. That is what really brings so much joy and peace and contentment, and I just feel like myself and it's it's my truth. Right?

It brings me alive when I have these things running through my life. And so what are those for you? It's so powerful when you understand what your values are and I'll talk about this in another point. When you understand what your values are, you're empowered to create a life that you will deeply love every single day. Once you figure out your values, please DM me on Instagram okay.

7. Take better care of your money and time.
Both of these aren't infinite, they're finite. Once they're gone, it's gone and they interestingly can also have a direct correlation with each other. How okay. So get this right. How you treat your time, you treat your money. How you treat your money, you treat your time. Mind blowing, right? Like there's so much that we could unpack there and I'll probably do another episode on this later, but ponder on this for a while. Have a think, how do I spend my time? Am I just throwing it out willy nilly? Am I not respecting it at all? Or am I holding onto it too much? Am I not using it enough? Am I not utilizing it enough?

And same with money, do I just, am I constantly in debt, constantly putting, you know, spending money I don't have? It's really interesting when you start looking at this and this is a great thing that you can journal on to and really unpack. Have a look at your bank statement, where is your money going? Is it going towards your values and things that you care about or are there subscriptions you've totally forgotten about that's just coming out every month? Your money is just leaking everywhere.

Your energy is leaking everywhere. So have a look at that. I'll definitely do another episode on it, but that's, that's a good intro on that one. Okay.

8. Get back to basics
I've touched on this a bit already, but it's important to lay it out like this.

So the basics are the foundation to your happiness. They're your go to. Whenever shit hits the fan, go back to these. When things fall to the wayside, so does your joy and your peace.

So: what you're putting in your body, I. E. What foods and what drinks, how much quality sleep you're getting, how you're choosing to move your body, how much sunlight you're getting, and who you're choosing to surround yourself with. When you get these aspects right, you'll be well and truly back in the driver's seat of your life. So whenever you feel like you're getting off course, ask yourself, what am I doing with my basics?

Like, do I have a solid foundation or are there cracks in it? And if there are, it's time to reevaluate, it's time to, you know, gather your energy, bring it back to you and fix it up, get it sorted. You'll feel so much better.

9. Heal your heart and fill it with love.
And I know that sounds super corny, but it's true.

If you're walking around feeling heartbroken, feeling not good enough, not worthy enough, not lovable, if you're surrounding yourself with people who are mirroring those shitty self beliefs back to you, now is the time to shut up shop and move to another street. You'll find it extremely difficult to have people around you who truly love you and accept you for who you are until you truly love and accept who you are. So journaling, self love practices, psychology, energy work, all those kind of things can help you to get back on track because you're worth taking care of.

10. Are your values aligned with your day to day life?
Lastly, this is a fun exercise to do when you've already done the 9 steps prior, so don't do this till last, okay? Or you don't have to actually like, like just be actively working on the other 9.

So take a look at your weekly schedule and write down in hourly blocks for the week that's gone, everything you were doing every hour for a whole week. Okay? And if you don't normally, you know, keep a calendar or a journal on what you're doing from this point to next week, write it all down because what I want you to do is have a look over it and ask yourself, are the places that you're choosing to invest your time and then your energy into every hour, are they in alignment with your core values? If they're not, they've got to either be scrapped completely, like unsubscribe, get out, say no, you know, don't be an asshole about it obviously, but, like it's time to reevaluate seriously those things and get off or get out of that situation, or you outsource it, you know, maybe it's time to spend some money on outsourcing some tasks, for example, someone to clean your home and support you in that way every week, or your perspective needs a shift. It needs to be re examined, so it feels empowering to do those things rather than disempowering.

And I know that there's probably a lot of you thinking right now, oh, all my housework, it's the housework, I hate it. I get it, but we are so lucky to have a home to look after. And some of you have kids, you're so lucky to have kids to look after. You have a partner, you're so lucky to have a partner to support. So if you're doing actions to, you know, clean the clothes, clean the house, do the dishes, blah blah blah.

It's really important to have that sense of empowerment around it and that sense of gratitude comes back to gratitude because there's nothing worse than hiding what you're doing and what you're spending your time on. Don't do it. Find the perspective shift if it needs to be found, so it feels a lot more empowering. And something that I tell my clients too, like, if you're doing the dishes and, yeah, I know the dishes aren't exciting, but put your headphones in, invest in cordless headphones, and listen to an inspiring podcast or some beautiful music or something. Like, you can stack different tasks up at the same time, So then it doesn't feel like you're just constantly doing things that you don't enjoy in life because that is not fun and that puts you in this state, like this lower density energy, which is not where you want to be.

It's a major energy drainer for one, and it's just gonna call in more of what you don't want. That's sitting on the level of hating dishes and hating washing. So what you want to do is find that empowerment in it. Do that and you'll notice a huge shift in how you feel at the end of the day. So, a quick recap on all of those, tips for you.

1. Set stronger boundaries.
2. Let go of guilt, shame, and regret.
3. Reconnect with your body and your 5 senses.
4. Be a better custodian of your body.
5. Rake better care of your external world.
6. Get clear on your values.
7. Take better care of your money and time.
8. Get back to basics, have a really solid foundation
9. Heal your heart and fill it with love
10. Are your values showing up in your week? It's having a look at where you're spending your time over the space of the week and making sure they're in alignment with your values and shifting perspective when you need to.

I hope you loved that episode. If you did, I would be so grateful if you're happy to please leave me a review. I would love to hear what you think about it. If you've got any feedback, reach out to me on Instagram. If you've got ideas of what you'd like me talk about, let me know. I'm here for you guys.

This is all for you. If it's not helpful, let me know. If something can be improved, let me know. And if you've got, yeah, suggestions, I'm all ears. So, have a lovely day.
Thank you for being here and happy aligning guys!

Download the free Discover Your Values PDF mentioned in this episode here.